What Is a Simp?
This is issue 1 in a three part mini-series called “Am I Toxic or Am I Not a Pushover?” This series may be longer depending on what else may come to mind, but without further ado, let’s get right into it.
Definition of a Simp.
I first got wind of the word a long time ago. Long before Gen Z and chronic Tik Tokers screwed the word up. Tommy Sotomayor was the first person I heard use the word and if I’m not mistaken, he claimed that he created the word “simp.” If I’m remembering correctly, he said it stood for “someone idolizing mediocre pussy” and young, hateful toxic self thought that was one of the most clever use of word play ever. Whether he made it up or not, it stood the test of time when I sat back and looked at all of the “simping” that has occured. I don’t have to be a Sotomayor fan to see it.
Someone who idolizes mediocre pussy is someone who will/has done anything to get the attention of a woman who doesn’t like them nor does she have any intention of carrying on anything further than what she’s stringing him along for.
A simp is NOT someone who is romantic. You can’t “simp” for your romantic partner. That’s just plain romance/love. It becomes “simping” when you’re doing things for somebody who does not reciprocate those emotions of lust, like or love that you have for them.
That’s pretty much the gist of what simping is. Men doing things for the female gaze, just like “pick me’s” are women who do and say anything for the male gaze.
What ISN’T Simping.
As mentioned before, being affectionate towards a romantic partner or wooing someone that actually likes you at the very least. Because we live in this heartless world people tend to think being careless is how they should be. They think by showing genuine emotions is how people get hurt in relationships. Everybody thinks they are a “catch” and therefore should be chased, even by the person they themselves want to “chase.” You pair that with what the kids consider being a simp then yeah, I can see why folks call being affectionate simping, but it is not. They see someone who isn’t afraid to put themselves out there and be judged or rejected as the fool. Not the person who thinks everybody on the planet excluding themself is a mind reader.
Men telling men to be better men is not simping if the intention behind it is to actually elevate the consciousness of men, not for selfish reasons like fooling women into thinking he’s the “perfect man.” Just look at Derrick Jaxn and others like him. That’s a textbook example of a simp, and his ex-wife, Da’Naia La’Trice Jackson was just one of the thousands of women who got caught up in his trap. There’s various levels to simping, but it all leads to trickery and intrapment.
I hope this very basic read gives you the complete understanding of what it means to be a simp. The next time you see someone using the term incorrectly, share this piece with them. Also share with those who do know the true definition of “simp” so they know they’re not alone.
Protecting your heart is not the same as being cold. You want to keep from getting hurt? Stop buying into everything these “relationship gurus” have to say is one simple way to avoid looking foolish.
