Spoiled Milk.
So I said I wasn’t going to do it, but I did it. I wrote this piece because I thought the message was too important for me not to bring up.
Earlier this year Kelis mentioned during an interview she doesn’t feel the need to protect the sanctity of black men. In that same interview she exposes Pharrell William as being a conman and triples down on the physical and verbal abuse claims she’s made about ex-husband Nasir Jones best known as Nas. And if they were never married I know for a fact that they have a son together. A BLACK son.
When I first read the headline and the quote I was disappointed. Kelis was someone I supported musically and admired because she’s not afraid to walk to the beat of her own drum. To be an outcast. It’s just unfortunate the Neptunes Drum’s she was marching to and making music with at the time completely screwed her over. The accusations of abuse from Nas are also disheartening as well. All of that misfortune still doesn’t give her a good reason to lump all black men together because of bad experiences with two black men. And for those who are going to say “you don’t know Kelis’ pass. You don’t know how many black men did her dirty” why don’t y’all have that same mindset when it comes to none black men? Kelis is a black woman which means she’s likely been a victim of racism and sexism at the hands of a white man. You don’t see Kelis distancing herself from white men. You don’t see her losing faith in white men. How about black men who have been screwed over by black women and other none-black men? If one of us said “I just don’t feel the need to protect the sanctity of black women anymore” y’all would riot. I would never make a statement like that, but you don’t know the amounts of toxic femininity I’ve dealt with. Point is if it’s unfair and wrong for a “brother” to say that then it is also wrong and unfair for a “sister” to say that. What happened to keeping that same energy, sis? We can tell him to choose wisely when it comes to women, but we can’t tell a woman to choose wisely when it comes to men? What happen to equality, sis?
I’m Not Bitter. I promise.
Kelis can date, love and marry who she wants. I want “sis” to be happy. I was upset with her comments because she was someone I was a fan of. At the end of the day she’s just one woman with a screwed up mindset, that has little to nothing to do with my life. I’m not taking any losses due to Kelis’ current state of mind toward black men. Black women haven’t stopped f-ing with me because of Kelis’ comments so I’m still doing fine. Unfortunately I can’t say the same for her son. If anybody is affected by Kelis’ disdain for black men it’s Knight Jones. Not only is his father Kelis’ alleged abuser, he now has to navigate in a world where his own mother doesn’t feel the need to protect him because he just so happen to be a black male. Before you call me bitter and angry, look at the woman who speaks ill of black men without thinking about the other black men and boys in her life. The one’s who haven’t done her dirty. If you ask me when black men or women are so quick to throw dirt on one another due to past trauama I find it hard to believe these people didn’t already have these hateful thoughts in their heads. People lie to themselves more than they lie to other people, and that could be the case with our kufi wearing “sister,” Kelis. I’m not saying Kelis doesn’t love her black son. Wayne said the only dark skinned woman he’ll ever love is his his daughter. Y’all correctly noticed how wrong that mindset was. Why can you not see the flaw’s in Kelis’ statement? Neither Reginae Carter or Knight Jones should take these backhanded compliments as a normal compliment or parental affections.
