Men Like Russell Wilson Aren’t Supposed to Win.
One of the long standing and sadly predicted, long lasting “debates” that black people tend to center a lot of wasted time and energy on is the “conversations” regarding the marriage of NFL Superstar, Russell Wilson and award winning R&B/Pop music artist, Ciara. The consensus amongst certain men seem to be Russell Wilson is a “square” and he only attracted a “dime” like Ciara because he is rich and famous and he plays a fatherly role to the son Ciara has with rapper/singer, Future. A bunch of other “talks” bread from this relationship about the people in it and people placing themselves in it, but I’m not going to share my thoughts on those conversations in this piece, if ever. What I want to share my thoughts on is why Russell Wilson, a man who isn’t harming anybody, is so damn polarizing to certain men.
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We all have our ways of escaping our toxic traits. These anti-Russell Wilson men are no different. The problem isn’t Russell Wilson, nor is their problem really women who use “good men” as a “last resort” after years of dealing with no good men, like them. Their problem is seeing the Russell Wilson’s with the women that they want being happily committed to the “Russell Wilson Type.” A lot of these anti-Russ types think commitment is a one way street. The lady has be the only one fully committed to them while they go off and do whatever and whoever. Personal development and accountability when it comes to failed relationships is not even a question for them.
The “Rule Book” says men like Russell Wilson aren’t supposed to win. If they get a woman, she’ll leave him for the “bad boys” where she’ll spend all of her life or “peak years” wasting away on someone undeserving of the desperate affection she is giving to him. Deep down these dirty dogs want what the “good boys” get when it comes to finding a deeply committed partner, but they don’t want to do the inner work that’ll come with it. Just like the women they have emotionally scarred, they rather not do the inner work and resort to forcing people to accept them “for them.” I think the men who say a commitment isn’t what they want are bullshitting because men who are the complete opposite of them in committed relationships wouldn’t bother them as much as it does if that were the case.
FOR CLARITY’S SAKE!
Being a good man DOES NOT mean allowing yourself to be played/walked all over by people who are hurting or anyone for that matter. I’d say the same goes for being a good woman/person. You can be a good lover/partner and still have boundaries and expect those boundaries to be respected. Asking your partner to respect those boundaries DOES NOT make you a bad partner or person and if that other person makes you out to be the “bad one” then they are not the right one for you. Kind of a tangent, but advice I feel is good for anyone no matter the subject matter, when it comes to love.
All in all, fellas, let’s be good men to others and most importantly to ourselves.
Good men win.
