Hypocrites of Color.
Saw an old video from an ex-crush who’s not aging well. It was Stacy Dash. I wrote a piece about her, but thought it was “punching down” on someone who for the most part is taking her L gracefully.
But I said what I said (wrote what I wrote) and there are still people like her, I’m not just talking about black republicans who are sellouts. I’m also referring to those with opposing political views who’ll swear up, down and sideways that they aren’t the same as Stacy Dash. They’re clueless.
The title of this piece is purposefully similar to one I wrote at the beginning of this year titled ‘Lesbians of Color” https://medium.com/@ernestsandefer/lesbians-of-color-cedac3c52d7b
A few months ago I was at a writer’s retreat. The time there was mostly positive, but the vibe wasn’t always right. More on that in a few, but one of the group members made a comment about not listening to white men. Their comment, “I don’t listen to white men. Like ever.”
This indigenous individual has every right to feel as strongly as they do about white supremacy, coming from a war torn nation while watching her people still get bullied by the United States. She looked right at me when she said that. I took no offense because I’m not a white man and even if I was I’d be John Brown. And by stroke of bad fortune if Satan pleaded with God to reincarnate me into a Jim Bob, I still wouldn’t sweat a statement like that because liberal women of color love racist white men.
I feel like the direct eye contact with me was not because of my brown skin and beautiful eyes, but because she probably wanted to say “I don’t listen to men,” period, but looking at me reminded her that “irl” is not TikTok. That’s not a threat of bodily harm, that’s a fact. It’s easy to be mean to your “oppressors” online in your echo chambers, but when you actually have to look a black man in the eye and call him a “bullet bag,” it hits different for the keyboard warrior. Insults that are so easy to hurl start to hurt the one who now has to own up to their online persona, outside of the virtual world, which is something they can’t comfortably do.
But we’re not here to cover that person’s comments, I want to focus on her friend’s aggressive head nod to her sister in anti-white Christ saying that she doesn’t listen to white men. I didn’t think anything of it other than “I’m glad you agree, sista.” I’m lying, I thought “y’all say that, but make it a big deal when a white athlete starts a new relationship with a white woman after splitting with a black woman. Seems like you care a whole lot about the affairs of white men,” but I also had my other thought, too.
Fast forward a few months since that last meeting, I see that woman (the black friend) on Facebook. I do what any normal man would do when he see’s a fine woman on Facebook, peruse her profile pictures. I see that she’s not wearing a face mask, I see that her hair is a lot shorter (still lovely), I see that she’s still a fan of sundresses all year round (nice) and I see that she’s engaged to a white man.
White, black, whatever, I don’t make it a mission of mine to intervene in other people’s relationships unless it’s open along with their mouths. Even then, both parties got to be good enough for me to say “use this dick to save your marriage.”
In all seriousness, I wondered why miss soon to be married to a white man would vehemently agree with someone pretty much saying white men aren’t worthy of the most common act of human decency. Is it because they’re friends? I tell my friends right from wrong all the time, which is why I barely have any friends. Or was it because being against white supremacy to ultra liberals is like cosplay, which means they must say, dress and look a specific way in order to be taken seriously by other liberal cosplayers?
I can understand not wanting to check your friend in front of strangers or not wanting to call somebody out publicly but to agree with a statement like that while in a committed relationship with “the devil” seems very hypocritical. “Agent” type behavior if I were to go to that extreme, but this POC liberal movement was “co-opted” for ages and they keep allowing it to happen which is why I don’t even consider it a co-op nor do I don’t believe them when they say they want liberation for all “people of color.”
I’m not saying you can’t have a white partner and be against white supremacy, I’m saying you shouldn’t make or agree with certain statements while laying down with a white person every night, especially if you plan to do it every night for the rest of your life. You can love a white person and still hate white supremacy.
The hypocrisy lies where the disrespect stands. White men aren’t worthy of your listening ear, but they can get your heart, tongue, lips, open legs, hand in marriage and soul, and while we’re at it, your vote. If that’s how you treat the men you despise, I would hate to see how you treat them men you love. I remember a time liberal women of color said they weren’t voting for anymore old white men, now they’re getting their booty’s to the polls to vote for one because he’s a VP pick of a “black” woman.
Please don’t hit me with the “that’s not what I/they mean” when using clear cut blanket statements. I’m very intentional with my words and I expect other adults who want to be taken seriously to be just as intentional with their words. “I don’t listen to white men” sounds radical, but instead of trying to look the part, how about being the part. Again, I’m not telling folks to leave their white lovers. I’m saying stop saying shit to impress other chronically online posers thinking everyone in “rad” spaces are also pretenders just like you.
Money isn’t real. Capitalism is fan-fiction fantasy to few and a nightmare to many. Social justice might be just as fugazi as the former to you, but it isn’t to me and dozens of others who don’t just say things that sound “radical.”
