Diddified, Not Dignified.
Amongst this sad situation is a discussion I feel is being overlooked and laughed at. Grant it, I can’t hear one thousand bottles of baby oil without chuckling and honestly, I don’t think I’lll ever look at baby oil the same, at least for the time being. It’s an item that triggers the dark humorist in me to make jokes at the expense of countless victims and willing participants to spite one man, Sean “P. Diddy,” “Diddy,” “Brother Love,” “Love,” “Puffy,” “Puff Daddy,” “Swag” Combs. Does that mean I won’t make jokes or laugh at this situation? No. I can’t stop. I won’t stop. But I will feel bad and I’ll continue to stress the victims of his and his co-conspirators actions deserve justice, peace and protection. As always, fuck Diddy.
I want to hopefully start a conversation about homosexuality/bi-sexuality and violence among men who are so shameful in accepting who they are, they are willing to harm others to keep a facade. Before I go further I want to make it clear that this is in no way excusing the actions of Diddy nor the others who haven’t been named yet, if ever, but are on tapes doing dirt with the Diddler. Acts done in shame still aren’t excusable, especially when it’s at the expense of others. You want to hurt/hate yourself for being gay, that is your choice. But to take that repressed rage out on others, even if they also struggle with their own sexual identity, is not something I’m just going to shrug my shoulders at.
The Types of Victims in This Situation.
- You have the “common” victims. Meaning those who fit the description of what most people consider a victim. Someone unsuspecting, taking advantage of, physically harmed. These are people who were drugged, raped, physically assaulted.
- The next type of “common” victims that may fly under the radar to some folks are the men who allegedly were sexually involved with Diddy and other men. Those who consented to sex with him but felt like they had to say yes. The type of sex crime victims that’s rampant in the entertainment industry but only are thought of as female victims. People who do things they may not have normally done if there wasn’t a promise of success or some other carrot. Again, these folks can always say no. Many before them have, it’s not always safe, though, which is why they go along with it.
- The next two victims aren’t as commonly acknowledged as victims, but I still think they are victims. The first “uncommonly” known victim are the men who, again, have sex with men but there’s no carrot involved, meaning there is no financial, material or career pressure behind their decision making. This is what they like to do, just in the dark. They are victims of their own insecurities and a bit of societies view on men who are sexually involved with other men. Just because Queer living is politicized does not mean it is widely accepted by society. You know what else was politicized but in reality still not acceptable to larger society? Black lives mattering. With that being said, these men are still victims, but this is not to say that their level of “victimhood” should be treated with the level of sensitivity the “common” victims should have, but they are still warranted a level of grace. Grace and encouragement that someday before their soul departs this earth they realize they are the one holding the key to the shackles.
- The last “uncommon” victims in this case are similar to their uncommon counterparts but take their insecurities too far to the point of sexual violence. Before anyone gets to fist and teeth clinching, I don’t think these victims deserve any level of sensitivity. Just like Diddy, the best thing they can do is die. They are still victims because of the same reason as the victims mentioned before, only difference is they take that self-hatred out on others. It’s not right, but it’s relevant. It’s a more logical reason than just simply saying “they are monsters,” although I don’t disagree with that accessment. I agree with it because it could still be the reason as to why Diddy and the other “allegedly” did what they did. Even if they did own up to their sexuality, it still wouldn’t make their actions okay or make them less of a monster. Remember the Democrat donor who was “allegedly” drugging male escorts to the point they’d overdose and die? He’s out and proud with his sexuality, so being closeted doesn’t equate to being a monster.
What About the Women?
The women victims who received harm are deserving of justice, peace and protection too. They are also victims of men with subjugated sexual desires despite these women being women and heterosexual relationships being widely accepted in society. Again, I’m not Nostradamus but one has to wonder if these men didn’t feel shame/hate for their sexual desires, there might not be any female victims as well because a healthy man is a secure man. Had these abusers been that they wouldn’t feel the need to control women or “prove” they are “real men” by raping these women and calling it sex because it’s penis to vagina penetration or a woman’s mouth their dick is in.
When I say the victims deserve justice, peace and protection I mean all of the non-violent victims, both men and women, but remember why I made this piece. There’s dozens of articles on here or elsewhere solely about the female victims, especially the famous ones. The discussion that I feel is being overlooked here is how self-hate and shame plays a part in this shitty situation.